Blessing Your Family, Tenderness
Welcome to Day 9 of our Journey through “31 Days to Bless Your Family”!
Today’s theme is Tenderness.
We head into another 1 – 2 – 3 topic in our 31 Days to Bless Your Family series. Here is a short acronym for our next three days together, TAR: Tenderness, Admiration, Respect.
This acronym came about bonding with a fellow brother as we discussed marriage (and family). I was describing what I thought promoted an extra special bond for a couple and a family. We will unpack each over the next three days, and today we’ll begin with Tenderness for you to Bless Your Family.
[shareable cite=”@Eric_D_Jackson”]A spirit of tenderness toward your mate and your family is the sweetness which guards against any sour or bitter reactions you might otherwise resort to.[/shareable]
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I have mentioned earlier in this 31 day series that my wife and I have had one fight in the past 10 plus years! That is an amazing thing to say for any couple and I give credit in most part to Tenderness. Of course so many of this month of topics contributes to the entire relationship my wife and I are blessed to experience together, but tenderness keeps the sweetness in our love.
Sure, there are frustrations, differences, and annoyances that either of us may have with the other from time to time. I admit that, but we have learned to protect our sweet love from any sour or bitter reactions we might otherwise resort to. Admiration and Respect are key here as well. I admire my wife, the woman God has made her to be, and I respect her and all of her efforts, gifts and accomplishments – so I “see” her and esteem her, I treasure her and treat her accordingly.
Even after all our years together we are still like newlyweds and have those “puppy love” characteristics, pet names, cues, and little things we say and do that make us so special together. Our tenderness and sweetness allow us to be vulnerable and authentic with each other, and to feel safe and trusting with each other.
When you create and protect tenderness in your relationship you are making an environment your family wants to come home to, relax in, and be blessed in. The tenderness you demonstrate to your mate and family lets them know how strong your love for them truly is because you are choosing not to react, but are resolved to be caring, kind, affectionate, gentle and patient. I hope you will also see after these three topics how they help set you up for success in other areas like creating fun family memories, and provides you more opportunities to Bless Your Family.
No matter what environment you have created for your marriage and family up until now there is always opportunity for more tenderness. The very nature of not reacting, not responding negatively, and showing genuine love through self control, gentleness, patience, and kindness is a game changer. It can help change the entire dynamics and atmosphere for your family. And if you are already on good ground then a little more tenderness may allow you to Bless Your Family even more.
[shareable cite=”@Eric_D_Jackson”]TAR makes your love sticky, it patches holes, and helps a strong foundation: #Tenderness #Admiration # Respect[/shareable]
Today’s “Dares and Prayers” shared in the video:
- Love Dare – “Makes Good Impressions“
- Love Dare For Parents – “Cherish“
- Power of a Praying Husband, Pray for – “Her Priorities“
- Resolution – “be a man to lead your family“
- 31 Days of Building Your Family Values, Bible App Devotions – “Peaceful“
- Love and Respect
- The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted
- The Family You’ve Always Wanted
- Getting the Love You Want
- Making Marriage Simple
<YouTube video coming soon>
Daily Resources and References
Please review the Welcome to 31 Days to Bless Your Family post if you missed it. There are some starting resources and recommendations there. Your best resource will be a local Bible teaching church to plug into with your family, and be surrounded by a thriving and supportive community.
Special Thanks to Kendrick Brothers Productions for their books The Love Dare, The Love Dare for Parents, and The Resolution for Men. You can check out their movies, books etc on their site. Their site recommends a local church finder at:
- TrueLife.orgwhich also links to a prayer online, chat or text site – ChatAboutJesus.com
For prayer from KLOVE Radio staff:
- Positive, Encouraging K-LOVE Radio – Submit a Prayer Request
- “You can also call [the] prayer line at 800-525-5683”
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